{"id":2996,"date":"2014-05-13T10:16:17","date_gmt":"2014-05-13T10:16:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/andre\/?p=2996"},"modified":"2018-02-08T13:24:17","modified_gmt":"2018-02-08T13:24:17","slug":"fighting-fair-builds-healthy-marriages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/andre\/sole-significance\/fighting-fair-builds-healthy-marriages\/","title":{"rendered":"Fighting Fair Builds Healthy Marriages"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love may be blind, but Marriage is an eye opener! A classic one-liner but so true \u2013 Marriage can be tough! \u00a0 Marriage is a wonderful medium for love to grow richer and deeper as it is tested in the realities of the day to day of life. \u00a0But in the day to day of real life, we soon throw away the marriage cliche\u2019s like it\u2019s \u201c50-50\u2033 or even \u2013 \u201cIts 110% \u2013 110% as the sugar coating is licked away by the pressures of life; mortgage, job, kids and the seemingly endless demands on our resources! \u00a0

the goal of a healthy marriage is a healthy marriage<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>A healthy marriage is nurtured by healthy love and dispenses with any such superfluous measures. Healthy marriages realize that, in some seasons of married life, one partner may have to do the majority of the lifting because sometimes the other isn\u2019t in a space where they can. \u00a0This takes huge understanding, commitment and tenacity, and sometimes the help of a seasoned marriage counselor. \u00a0Rest assured a season will come when the roles may be reversed.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is a misnomer that the presence of conflict in a relationship means the marriage is unhealthy. \u00a0The absence of conflict is something more to be concerned with. \u00a0The complete absence of conflict in a marriage can be a symptom of resignation and contempt where one or both partners have a sense of futility and disdain for one another. \u00a0This occurs when conflict has not been handled well. \u00a0While conflict can be toxic when it is not dealt with in healthy ways, it\u00a0can be incredibly fruitful when we honestly address and work to resolving our conflict in healthy ways. \u00a0 The ability to steward conflict in our marriages in healthy ways will open the door to greater intimacy, safety and communication with your spouse. \u00a0This contributes to a long, happy and healthy marriage!<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the biggest things we\u2019ve had to learn in our #marriage is fighting fair! <\/a><\/div>
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One of the biggest things we\u2019ve had to learn in our marriage is fighting fair! \u00a0We need to keep in mind t<\/b>he goal of a healthy marriage is a healthy marriage<\/strong>, but sadly, it is often reduced to winning. \u00a0You may win the battle, but you will lose your marriage! \u00a0 This attitude blows up marriages every day. \u00a0The goal of healthy conflict is a healthy marriage where each partner learns to choose to serve the other for the sake of the relationship. \u00a0If this is the goal then our communication, posturing and our strategies for dealing with conflict change! \u00a0No longer about winning or having to be right<\/em>, it is about serving each other and genuinely loving each other towards the health of the marriage and our families.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fighting Fair to Strengthen your Marriage!<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n