Guys Grieve Too

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There is a stubborn myth in our culture that men don’t grieve and that men aren’t allowed to express emotions of sadness, tenderness, and heartbreak.  These two myths isolate men in their grief with few healthy ways to process their losses. Loss is a part of every life. Grief is cumulative.  If we don’t deal with it we will find it seeping into other areas of our lives, often in messy ways. When most guys think of grief they think of the death of someone close to them, but did you know there are over 40 different kinds of loss that we can experience?

Kinds of loss that many men experience includes: 

  • Death of a spouse
  • Dismissal from work / Laid Off
  • Divorce / Marital separation
  • Retirement
  • Death of a close family member
  • Change in financial state
  • Personal injury or illness
  • Change in living conditions
  • Change in health of family member
  • Trouble with (change of) boss
  • Child leaving home
  • Foreclosure of mortgage or loan
  • Trouble with in-laws
  • Foreclosure of mortgage or loan
  • Death of a close friend
  • Change in working hours or conditions
  • Change to different line of work
  • Change in responsibilities at work
  • Death of a pet
  • Sexual difficulties

 

 

There are also intangible kinds of loss.  These include:

  • a loss of a sense of identity and purpose.
  • a loss of a sense of belonging, security, trust, approval.
  • a loss of control of your body.

 

Here’s the deal: Grief is the natural, normal emotional response to loss of any kind.  Or another way: Grief is conflicting feelings caused by a change (real or imagined) or an end in a familiar pattern of behaviour or experience. Grief is not an illness or a weakness; rather it is the way that human beings are wired to process the emotions and pain of loss.  These emotions are not wrong but the natural and normal response to the losses we experience.

 

This Fall, we will be hosting grief groups just for men.  These are small groups of no more than 10 that will gather once a week for eight weeks to learn about loss and their grief, and employ the practical tools and insights of The Grief Recovery Method.

The Grief Recovery method is an evidence-based grief recovery program that is a powerful, action-based, and directed approach to healing life’s deepest heartbreaks.  The Grief Recovery Method is not a faith-based program and men of all walks of life are welcome, and you are most welcome to draw on all your tools for healing your heart.

Together we create a safe space for you to:

  • Gain a deeper understanding of the nature of grief, and the kinds of loss that create feelings of grief.
  • Understand the physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual effects of grief
  • Help you cultivate healthy, robust grieving and coping skills
  • Uncover beliefs that may inhibit your recovery from loss
  • Provide you with the opportunity to express and give voice to your emotional truth regarding your loss in a setting that is free from judgment, analysis or criticism
  • Identify the losses that may need to be emotionally completed
  • Nurture a deeper sense of self-awareness and awareness of your relationships
  • Identify those behaviours that are not helpful towards healing
  • Take an empowered new role in your healing and for your life
  • Take the steps necessary to emotionally complete a relationship with a person who has died, a person whom you are now divorced, or other circumstances
  • Be equipped with practical strategies to complete other losses you have experienced
  • Re-energize your life with a fresh sense of hope and vitality


We are assessing interest in a group in Taber, Alberta in the Fall of 2021.  If you are potentially interested, please:

 

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