{"id":13793,"date":"2018-05-10T10:48:33","date_gmt":"2018-05-10T10:48:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/?p=13793"},"modified":"2018-09-29T17:40:55","modified_gmt":"2018-09-29T17:40:55","slug":"a-bridge-or-a-treadmill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/sole-significance\/a-bridge-or-a-treadmill\/","title":{"rendered":"A Bridge or a Treadmill?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Okay, I admit it! \u00a0I like retro cartoons &#8211; cartoons from my youth. \u00a0I like the characters, the <\/span>zany<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">\u00a0plots, the animation and the music. \u00a0I guess somewhere deep inside me is a <\/span>10-year-old<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> boy whose happiest times were watching the likes of Bugs Bunny, the Flintstones, <\/span>and<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> Scooby Doo. \u00a0The other day I caught a glimpse of the intro to the Jetsons &#8211; particularly the scene where George Jetson is walking the family dog Astro &#8230; on a treadmill!\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">\u00a0Makes me chuckle every time I see it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">The treadmill idea has stuck in my mind, and it reminded me that sometimes, those who are more introspective tend to spend a lot of time in their minds processing thoughts and experiences. <strong>Sometimes this processing can be a bridge to help us make progress; sometimes it can be a treadmill!<\/strong> The treadmill gives the illusion that we are sorting things out, but in <\/span>truth<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, we expend a lot of mental energy, produce a great deal of anxiety and make no forward progress at all. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Wouldn\u2019t it be great if we could <strong>discern between the kind of processing that is a bridge to greater wholeness and the dreaded treadmill<\/strong>? \u00a0Let&#8217;s try!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Take three deep breaths in and out.<\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Stop, Listen, and Observe what\u2019s going on in your mind.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Have you passed that rock before?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Look for the mental and emotional landmarks when you find yourself processing a lot. Recognizing certain landmarks in our thoughts can be a clue that we are going around in circles. <strong>These landmarks can be specific thoughts, phrases, or replaying scenarios &#8211; real or imagined.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">These landmarks can also serve as clues to where we might want to prayerfully look a little closer. \u00a0 <strong>What could they be telling us about the root of our distress?<\/strong> \u00a0Could these be clues to the taskmaster that keeps driving us along? Is there an invitation of the Spirit to explore them a little deeper?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Are you making progress or spinning your wheels?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">In my part of Canada, four-wheel drive vehicles are very popular. While they can provide great traction, but there are times they do get <\/span>stuck<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, and when they do, they really get stuck! The more the wheels spin, the more stuck they become. When we get stuck on the treadmill, we soon discover that despite\u2019s lots of time and energy we aren\u2019t making any forward progress, and in many <\/span>cases<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, we may find ourselves more stuck. Again, <strong>notice your emotions &#8211; are the thoughts getting more frantic and unwieldy or are you getting a sense of peace and a sense of the way through?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Progress can be slow, so don\u2019t despise small beginnings. \u00a0Often progress builds upon the ground gained before it. \u00a0A small revelation or insight is often the catalyst for the next step forward!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Be careful of your questions<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Almost 20 years ago, a young man in the youth group we were leading was shot and killed in our local high school. In <\/span>fact<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, it was two weeks after the school shooting in Columbine, Colorado. It was the first of its kind in Canada. It was a HUGE shock! \u00a0Horrifying! In the face of shock and tragic <\/span>circumstances<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, one naturally is working overtime to make sense of what has happened. But <strong>some things, some questions, will never have a satisfactory answer.<\/strong> You can understand the facts of a situation but even knowing them is bitterly unsatisfying. For me, evil is a mystery. It defies any rationale. Even to blame it on a sinful, fallen world falls flat in the darkness of evil. It is my conviction that t<strong>he only rugged enough response to the mystery of evil is healthy faith<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">This to say that while we can ask the question, knowing it is <\/span>possible<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> that a satisfactory, comforting answers will be elusive. \u00a0 It is here that we can cast the unknowing, the bewilderment onto Jesus. \u00a0What I mean is <strong>we don\u2019t have to walk in\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><strong>mystery<\/strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong> on our own<\/strong>. \u00a0That even through the valley of the shadow of <\/span>death<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, we need fear no evil because God is with us. \u00a0Even in the presence of our enemies this same God is with us, and as the psalmist says &#8220;preparing a table before us&#8221;. \u00a0<strong>The present presence of the God-who-loves is with us always.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><strong>Avoid Catastrophizing<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">I don\u2019t know if catastrophizing is a real word, but it is used by some to describe those times where our thoughts get away on us. \u00a0Does this seem familiar?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">You have an upcoming performance review with your boss, and in the anxiety, you feel about it, the twisted fantasy begins. Before you know it, you imagine the worst possible scenario complete with the whole transcript of the imaginary conflict. By the time the smoke clears\u00a0<\/span>we are<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> in a <\/span>full-blown<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> lather as we have imagined telling our boss where to go and how to get there, and that he has a stupid haircut! \u00a0If you are really stressed, then you panic because you imagine you\u2019ll have to sleep on your brother-in-law\u2019s <\/span>couch<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> and endure his moronic story of how he made up the phrase &#8220;Cheese Doodle!&#8221; \u00a0You get the idea! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Catastrophizing can happen so quickly but to recognize it can be an indication that we are on an unhealthy treadmill, and when we realize it, its time to step off.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Get out of your head!<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Part of the problem is many of us who are susceptible to the treadmill tend to cling to the troublesome thoughts. Instead of clinging to <\/span>these thoughts<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, we can practice acknowledging them, and let them carry on through and out of our mind. \u00a0<strong>Research has shown that trying to control unwanted thoughts, often results in increased tenaciousness of the thoughts.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">I found it particularly helpful when I realized that <strong>my thoughts are NOT who I am<\/strong>. \u00a0I am much more than my thoughts. \u00a0They come, and they go. \u00a0I have an exercise where I imagine a river. \u00a0I notice the current, the <\/span>colour<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> of the water and the banks. \u00a0 When I have a nagging thought enter my mind, I envision it as a log, drifting down the river. \u00a0 I watch it <\/span>come<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> and watch it go and gently resisting the temptation to try and grab the log and ride it down the river.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>When there is a particularly persistent thought, \u00a0I find it is important for me to get out of my head, or off the treadmill.<\/strong> \u00a0 This simply means I need to make a change <\/span>in<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"> the moment, and often this includes something that is creative, expressive, experiential or physical. \u00a0 This tends to help get me back into the present moment and off the treadmill. \u00a0 The following are some of my <\/span>favourites<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Practical Tips for Getting off the Treadmill<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<div><\/div>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Walk or exercise to expend the emotional energy physically.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Gardening. Get your hands in the dirt!<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Painting, sculpt, work in a\u00a0<\/span>colouring book<span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">, dance, sing, build model airplanes or birdhouses or some other kind of creating.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Ritual &#8211; meaningful rituals can help root us in the present moment along with a sense of the transcendent.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Nature &#8211; touch, smell, listen, (if safe, taste).<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Volunteer for a cause that means something to you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Active Prayer, meditation. For example,\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Yoga, Tai Chi, prayer walk, &#8211; these active forms of prayer get us out of our heads and engages our whole bodies<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Quotes\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">&#8220;Thoughts are only thoughts. They are not you. You do belong to yourself, even when your thoughts don&#8217;t.\u201d \u00a0\u2015 John Green, Turtles All the Way Down<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">&#8220;Don\u2019t believe everything you think.&#8221; &#8211; Anon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">\u201cFinally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable \u2014 if anything is excellent or praiseworthy \u2014 think about such things and the God of peace will be with you\u201d (Philippians 4:8).<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Okay, I admit it! \u00a0I like retro cartoons &#8211; cartoons from my youth. \u00a0I like the characters, the zany\u00a0plots, the animation and the music. \u00a0I guess somewhere deep inside me is a 10-year-old boy whose happiest times were watching the likes of Bugs Bunny, the Flintstones, and Scooby Doo. \u00a0The other day I caught a&#8230;","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":13800,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[33,37],"tags":[665,129,167,179,425,664,553],"class_list":["post-13793","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sole-significance","category-significant-tools","tag-controlling-our-thoughts","tag-daily-living","tag-everyday-spirituality","tag-faith-in-real-life","tag-prayer","tag-troubling-thoughts","tag-wholeness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13793","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13793"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13793\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13800"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13793"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13793"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iamsignificant.ca\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13793"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}