Tag Archives: authentic living

Welcome to my Garden

Take your shoes off in the garden of my soul for it is holy ground. You are welcome in the vulnerability of your bare feet to spend some time and be refreshed. All I ask is that you stay to the path as not to trample and crush the most delicate of new vegetation, and…
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The Both-And approach to Fear

It was a simple statement on my feed this morning.  They stated, “Faith and worry cannot co-exist.” With a sigh, I asked, “So then why is it that fear and faith co-exist all the time?" We have to do better than mere platitudes. Surely Christian spirituality is more robust in the hothouse of real life.…
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What we think they see

A strange adventure at Costco last Wednesday. As I was pushing my cart, doing my shopping and people watching I saw a lady walk towards me with what looked like a nasty bruise right in the middle of her forehead. I thought to myself ‘I wonder what she walked into?’ A few minutes later I saw…
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From your Head to your Heart

“You must descend from your head into your heart. At present, your thoughts of God are in your head.  And God himself is, as it were, outside you, and so your prayer and other spiritual exercises remain exterior. Whilst you are still in your head, thoughts will not easily be subdued but will always be whirling about, like snow in winter or clouds…
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The Crazy Father

A father had two sons, and one of his sons came to him and said, “Dad, I have been thinking it’s time for me to leave and find myself. I need to figure out who I am and make my own fortune, my own way in the world. So, what I would like is for…
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What is Spiritual Bypassing?

Their loved one was palliative with only a couple days to live.   Everything medical that could be done had been done and her cancer ravaged body was plain worn out.  The goals of care were to keep her comfortable. Her husband vacillated from ‘this is Gods will’, “fighting the enemy to the end”  and “staying…
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An obstacle to Deeper Living

As I often write and my friends and clients are all too familiar, I am a huge fan of becoming, journey type of language.  The key here is we don’t ever arrive and each present moment opens to a new present moment, hopefully with each adding a little more light, a little more understanding of…
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I wish I could hate them.

I wish I could hate them. In ways, it would be so much easier. Their violence, racism, homophobia, transphobia, sexism, xenophobia, greed, exploitation of the poor, the anything-to-win-politics and indiscriminate, consumption of the planet and each other.  I hate the scapegoating, half-truths, spins ... all the bullshit.  I hate the value of winning at all…
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When we Experience Grief

All Grief Is Experienced at 100% Remembering that grief is the normal and natural response to a loss of any kind and that no two people experience loss the same way - All grief is experienced at 100%.  This doesn’t mean that all grief is experienced at the same level of emotional intensity.  We experience…
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Vulnerability – Art of Showing Up

They started their presentation with a 10-minute litany of why they are “f’'d up,” and this led into a conversation about vulnerability.  Their attempt to connect with us with pseudo vulnerability was less connecting, and more ‘this person could really benefit from some therapy.”  I think vulnerability is often misunderstood.   For lots of folks, vulnerability…
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