We are raised to work harder, strive, stretch, brutalize the flesh and get what we want. Activity, or more accurately, productivity has become a sacred virtue in our culture.
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The Dark Night
Loss has many faces
Grief is often associated with the physical death of someone we care about. While grief certainly is experienced when we lose someone we love, there are many different kinds of loss that might cause us to experience grief. Grief is the natural and normal emotional response to loss of any kind. It is conflicting feelings…
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Thorns of Life
I came across this story while listening to the audiobook version of The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. It struck me so profoundly I spent the next few kilometres repeating the stunned mantra of “Oh wow... oh wow...”. I was so moved that I wanted to retell it in my own words to reduce…
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Things we Gotta Stop Saying to Grieving People
The sad part for me as a Grief Recovery Specialist is how often these memes and well-intentioned comments are often propagating myths about loss which can become unhelpful barriers towards our finding some healing.
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Games we play to Avoid Dealing with Emotional Pain
I’m a little Tea Pot... when I get all steamed -up hear me shout! A familiar nursery rhyme but what an interesting allegory when we are talking about heart-wounds, stress and emotional pain. Picture yourself as a tea-pot (or kettle). Add some water, some heat, and when water boils, steam (energy) is released through the…
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