Category Archives: Grief & Loss

When we Experience Grief

All Grief Is Experienced at 100% Remembering that grief is the normal and natural response to a loss of any kind and that no two people experience loss the same way - All grief is experienced at 100%.  This doesn’t mean that all grief is experienced at the same level of emotional intensity.  We experience…
Read more

Loss has many faces

Grief is often associated with the physical death of someone we care about.  While grief certainly is experienced when we lose someone we love, there are many different kinds of loss that might cause us to experience grief. Grief is the natural and normal emotional response to loss of any kind.   It is conflicting feelings…
Read more

I’d rather die than …

My heart aches.  Groans inside of me.  Sometimes screams and some times weeps. The tactics they use Diabolical Each one The primal temptation - an eye for an eye. An ever present crouching tiger at the door. I’d rather die than pick up their sword. I’d rather lose the battle than fight the way they…
Read more

Potty Mouth Prayer

Is there a place for using a potty-mouth in prayer?  You know, profanity, swearing. In a moment of angst, and no other word will do, is it okay for followers of Jesus to let fly with the nasty four-letter words? Never? Maybe?  Depends on the word? As long as you conjugate them properly?  What’s your…
Read more

Thorns of Life

I came across this story while listening to the audiobook version of The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.  It struck me so profoundly I spent the next few kilometers repeating the stunned mantra of “oh wow... oh wow...”.   I was so moved that I wanted to retell in my own words to reduce the…
Read more

Closure – Maybe not what you want

Words are important.  Words are symbols that are arranged in a certain order - but these string of symbols can carry great significance.  Words can be neutral or packed with negative or positive connotations which are greatly affected by the context in which they are used AND heard.  It is helpful to remember that communication is…
Read more

Grief is …

Grief is messy. Grief is ugly. Grief is complex. Grief is painful. Grief is life-altering. Grief is a human experience - we all experience loss in a multiplicity of ways throughout our lives.  Some of these losses can be relatively minor, while others can prove to be cataclysmic, disruptive and painful. We are each unique, our…
Read more

Games we play to Avoid Dealing with Emotional Pain

I’m a little Tea Pot... when I get all steamed -up hear me shout!  A familiar nursery rhyme but what an interesting allegory when we are talking about heart-wounds, stress and emotional pain.  Picture yourself as a tea-pot (or kettle). Add some water, some heat, and when water boils, steam (energy) is released through the…
Read more