Category Archives: Grief & Loss

I’d rather die than …

My heart aches. Groans inside of me. Sometimes screams and some times weeps. The tactics they use Diabolical Each one The primal temptation - an eye for an eye. An ever present crouching tiger at the door. I’d rather die than pick up their sword. I’d rather lose the battle than fight the way they…

Is there a place for using a potty-mouth in prayer? You know, profanity, swearing. In a moment of angst, and no other word will do, is it okay for followers of Jesus to let fly with the nasty four-letter words? Never? Maybe? Depends on the word? As long as you conjugate them properly? What’s your…

I came across this story while listening to the audiobook version of The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. It struck me so profoundly I spent the next few kilometers repeating the stunned mantra of “oh wow... oh wow...”. I was so moved that I wanted to retell in my own words to reduce the…

Things we Gotta Stop Saying to Grieving People

The sad part for me as a Grief Recovery Specialist is how often these memes and well-intentioned comments are often propagating myths about loss which can become unhelpful barriers towards our finding some healing.

Words are important. Words are symbols that are arranged in a certain order - but these string of symbols can carry great significance. Words can be neutral or packed with negative or positive connotations which are greatly affected by the context in which they are used AND heard. It is helpful to remember that communication is…

Grief is messy. Grief is ugly. Grief is complex. Grief is painful. Grief is life-altering. Grief is a human experience - we all experience loss in a multiplicity of ways throughout our lives. Some of these losses can be relatively minor, while others can prove to be cataclysmic, disruptive and painful. We are each unique, our…

Games we play to Avoid Dealing with Emotional Pain

I’m a little Tea Pot... when I get all steamed -up hear me shout! A familiar nursery rhyme but what an interesting allegory when we are talking about heart-wounds, stress and emotional pain. Picture yourself as a tea-pot (or kettle). Add some water, some heat, and when water boils, steam (energy) is released through the…

September 27, 2013
Pointing to the Moon

There is an old story about a fella illustrating the difference between spirituality and religion. He used the picture of a hand pointing to the moon. He said spirituality is the pointing to the moon where religion is more concerned with the hand. How is the hand pointing? What finger is being used? What color is the hand? Is it a male Continue Reading...
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November 7, 2012
How Meaning Inspires Overcoming

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” - Dr. Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl, the founder of Logo-therapy (aka Meaning Therapy) was interned in a Nazi concentration camp as a laborer. The living conditions were horrid, cold, wreaking Continue Reading...
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February 27, 2014
Legend of the Fire Maker

Once upon a time, in a far away land, a wise man made a discovery. He discovered fire and with fire, he could be warm, cook his food and have light through the dark of night. He had heard of a people across the mountains; the people who lived on the plains and he wondered if they could benefit from Continue Reading...
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Category Archives: Grief & Loss

I’d rather die than …

Potty Mouth Prayer

Thorns of Life

Things we Gotta Stop Saying to Grieving People

Closure – Maybe not what you want

Grief is …

Games we play to Avoid Dealing with Emotional Pain

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Pointing to the Moon

How Meaning Inspires Overcoming

Legend of the Fire Maker